How Minerva’s older men are making the right choices

11th November, 2024

Men over 50 represent a unique demographic that is navigating the complexities of aging, identity, and societal expectations. This stage of life often brings about significant transitions, including retirement, changes in family dynamics, and shifts in health. Understanding the challenges and opportunities faced by men in this age group is crucial for fostering a supportive environment that encourages growth and fulfilment.

And Minerva Bath Rowing Club has been doing just that… “The culture of the Learn to Row course at Minerva was excellent, says George, 62. “It was welcoming, there was no presumption as to capability, and what you did or who you were outside Minerva was of no real importance.”

One significant issue that men over 50 face is the transition after retirement. Many men identify strongly with their careers, and once they retire, they lack social interactions. The workplace often serves as a social hub, providing opportunities to connect with colleagues. Without this daily interaction, retired men often feel isolated, which leads to a decline in their social networks.

Donal, 73, agrees: “I really enjoy the camaraderie and fun and I have made real friends at Minerva. We row in all weathers and get the great benefit the open air brings. There has never been a rowing session that I have not enjoyed and I always return from them feeling alive and positive.”

Societal expectations around masculinity can create barriers for men over 50 when it comes to expressing vulnerability or seeking help. Traditional views often dictate that men should be stoic and self-reliant, but that perspective is changing. By fostering an environment where men feel comfortable to discuss their emotions, we can help break down these barriers and promote mental health awareness.

Dave, 59, says talking with team mates is all part of the rowing experience:
“The camaraderie and exercising on the water is very good for my mental health. In our crew we find we can discuss our mental health and relationship issues – something men do not normally do! Being in crews and squads creates social circles – this doesn’t generally happen at the gym.”

George agrees: “For me, joining Minerva was a new social activity where I was known for myself rather than ‘husband of’, ‘father of’ or ‘owner of’. Mixing the crews up purely for reasons of who is in attendance worked brilliantly in that I got to meet new people and have new conversations.”

Health issues also play a critical role in socialisation for men over 50. Chronic conditions, mobility limitations, or mental health challenges such as depression and anxiety can hinder a man’s ability to engage in social activities. Physical limitations may restrict participation in hobbies or community events and mental health struggles can lead to a lack of motivation to reach out to others, creating a vicious cycle of isolation.

George: “Rowing is a team activity and that is a good thing when you are feeling a bit fragile as it forces you to interact. And the fact that it takes place at fixed times is also good – I couldn’t delay or prevaricate over!”

In conclusion, men over 50 face a myriad of challenges and opportunities as they navigate this stage of life. By addressing issues related to retirement, health, social connections, and societal expectations, we can create a supportive environment that empowers men to lead fulfilling lives. As author, Caitlin Moran, aptly puts it, “Life is a series of choices. Choose well.” Encouraging men to make positive choices in their later years can lead to enriched experiences and lasting connections. Choosing to row and to join Minerva Rowing Club seems to be one of life’s a them.